Today was the first day that I stood up for myself. 

What Do I mean by that?

It is hard for me to be assertive.At any cost I avoid assertiveness. For me this is not an easy concept to grasp. Especially when it comes to people, relationships ,family that I am strongly emotionally connected with. Why do I do this?why do I avoid at all cost? It is easy  to do. We as humans and in my human experience, I find it easier stick with what I know. Is it really easier? No, Long term effects; low self-esteem, no recognition or respect from others, anger outburst, the little things you enjoy decrease. Feel free to add:

DBT: interpersonal relationships is something I definitely need to focus on. I also need to focus on communication with others. Detaching from emotion and think with a rational mind. I’m interested in learning all possible avenue if anyone would like to share, I would highly appreciate…


A Semi-Organized Mess

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I don’t know when this post will be published, but I started writing it at 6:13 AM on Saturday, May 16, 2015. I had woken up at 4:00 AM (which is usual for me) and started drafting a blog post that’s currently titled “The Stuff That’s Hard To Change“. Then, whilst in the midst of crafting that post, a partially formed idea popped into my head for another post. So I:

  • pushed the first idea aside,
  • executed a mental context switch, and
  • started writing the second post (which is currently titled “Programs, Projects, Products“).

Whilst writing the second post, yet another idea for a third post (the one you’re currently reading) came to mind. So, yet again, I spontaneously performed a mental context switch and started writing this post. Sensing that something was amiss, I stepped back and found myself… thrashing all over the freakin’ place!

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Self-Acceptance vs Self-Improvement

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I like investigating opposing views to my beliefs and world-views.  I found this article which discusses the issues with striving for self-improvement and the benefits of self-acceptance.  I like the author’s view and to a point: I agree with self-acceptance as a starting point, but also believe that we should never become complacent and/or use self-acceptance as an excuse to stop growing.  Give it a read and let me know what you think:

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